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The ManKind Podcast
The ManKind Podcast is a space where modern masculinity gets redefined by real men doing real work.
In a world full of outdated blueprints and noisy stereotypes, hosts Brandon Clift and Boysen Hodgson unpack what it means to be a man today with humor, honesty, and heart.
This isn’t about telling you WHO to be. It’s about helping you pick up the pen and write your own story of manhood. Whether we’re breaking down leadership blind spots, sharing the messiness of personal growth, or talking to mission-driven authors and change-makers, this show offers tools, stories, and soulful conversations to help you show up as the man you're destined to become!
If you’re ready to stop performing and start becoming, tune in. We’re here for the messy, meaningful, and often hilarious journey of becoming the kind of man and human you actually want to be.
Created by the ManKind Project USA.
Hosted by Brandon Clift & Boysen Hodgson.
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266 - Why Parenting Tactics Don't Change Your Kids (And What Actually Does) with Pat Barber
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Most of us were handed one of two scripts: the "because I said so" dad with all structure and no warmth, or the gentle parent with all warmth and no structure. Both leave kids without what they actually need. Pat Barber spent 22 years as a CrossFit coach, won his region in 2011, and taught seminars on four continents. Then he turned that same method of relentless self-examination onto fatherhood. Thirteen years and four sons later, he runs The Fathers Guild, and this conversation lays out what he's learned.
In this conversation, you'll learn:
- The four parenting quadrants (neglectful, permissive, authoritarian, authoritative) and why most dads bounce between the two extremes without realizing it
- Why "gentle parenting" as most people practice it is actually permissive parenting, and what the research-backed version really looks like
- Why parenting tactics don't change long-term outcomes for kids, and the one thing that does: who you are and the environment you create
- The real definition of a boundary: it's not what your kid can't do, it's what you will do when they do it
- The $5 yelling challenge Pat used to break a lifelong pattern of reactivity in a single month
- How The Fathers Guild uses monthly challenges, weekly Monday Ledger check-ins, and scored accountability to help dads grow the way athletes do
If you're buried and don't know where to start: pick one thing, try it for a month, and get some men around you while you do it.
Resources Mentioned:
- The Fathers Guild — https://thefathersguild.com
- Jamie Glowacki (parenting educator, boundaries framework) — https://www.jamieglowacki.com
- The Gottman Institute (repair after conflict) — https://www.gottman.com
- Men and Women of Discomfort (MWOD) — https://mwod.io
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