221 - The Most Important Parenting Shift You’ll Ever Make: Shepherding vs. Engineering our Children

In this heartfelt and honest conversation on The Mankind Podcast, Brandon Clift and co-host Boysen Hodgson explore what it really means to parent with presence, humility, and trust.

Rather than engineering outcomes for our kids based on our own fears and projections, what would it look like to shepherd them instead? What if we trusted their unique path rather than trying to build it for them?

This episode challenges the traditional performance-based model of parenting and offers a grounded alternative. With humor, vulnerability, and plenty of lived experience, Brandon and Boysen discuss how fatherhood has shaped them, what they have had to unlearn, and why curiosity is more powerful than control.

You’ll hear about:

• The difference between engineering your child’s life and shepherding their journey
• Why kids do not need us to fix them, but to witness and support them
• How childhood wounding can drive modern parenting behaviors
• What it means to raise children with open-hearted curiosity
• Why “doing the work” as parents requires letting go of ego
• Practical insights from two fathers committed to evolving alongside their children

Whether you are a parent, a caregiver, or simply someone who wants to break generational patterns, this episode offers a refreshing and compassionate approach to raising the next generation.

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